Do you think I was so wrong for asking the following from my girlfriend? ?

I believe you were absolutely right to suggest counseling. She sounds like she may have some problems/issues of her own that she has not properly dealt with. If you feel the relationship is worth saving, then maybe getting your own counseling can help you cope. Really, you have to do a lot of deep thinking and ask yourself if the relationship is worth the work. Good luck, buddy, I know this can be super tough!